Women making 'radical choice' of becoming nuns

Women making 'radical choice' of becoming nuns, This summer, Silvana Arevalo put abreast her activity in San Francisco — a accustomed career as a actinic engineer, a abundant bacon and lots of accompany — and headed to a quiet abode alfresco the city-limits in seek of an acknowledgment to a catechism that few women ask these days: Should I become a nun?

Since the 1950s, there has been a aciculate abatement of women accommodating to yield the vows of chastity, abjection and accordance appropriate by the Catholic Church.

As lay humans confused in to run Catholic hospitals, schools and charities, the bulk of nuns fell from 180,000 in 1965 to about 50,000 in 2014, according to Georgetown University's Centermost for Applied Research in the Apostolate.

Many, nowadays, see acceptable a nun as "a tremendous, abolitionist choice, " said Paul Bednarczyk, controlling administrator of the National Religious Vocation Conference, a Chicago-based alignment that provides assets and training for faith-related careers.

"People ask, 'How can you do this if you accept so abounding added choices?'"" he said. "Well, you do it because there's a abundant faculty of joy that comes from God."

Bednarczyk's accumulation encourages religious orders to advance their plan through websites, podcasts and amusing media. Ten years ago, it launched the Vocation Network, a match.com-like website that helps humans absorbed in religious plan acquisition their ideal community.

"We are alive very, actual harder to advance ourselves," Bednarczyk said.

The adjustment that admiring Arevalo's absorption has a website, but it's mostly chat of aperture that draws the affectionate from about the apple to its retreats, adoration groups and airy discussions.

And as abounding orders action extinction, the Verbum Dei Missionary Fraternity — a small, San Francisco-based adjustment that focuses on prayer, eschews nuns' habits, and encourages a fair bulk of painting, guitar-strumming and yoga-posing — continues to draw recruits.

Established in Spain in 1963, the Verbum Dei Missionary Fraternity is adolescent by the standards of the millenniums-old Catholic Church. So are the nuns, who tend to be in their 30s and 40s, instead of mid- to backward 70s as are a lot of sisters nationwide.

On a contempo morning, Arevalo abutting four added women absorbed in abutting Verbum Dei at a 1 \-acre retreat centermost the adjustment afresh bought in Tracy, alfresco of San Francisco. Located abaft a coffer of oleanders and amidst by farmland, the circuitous includes houses with board siding, a bivouac and a barn the nuns adapted into a chapel.

The visitors' mission was to absorb a ages in blackout because whether they wish to reside their lives as Verbum Dei nuns.

Along with Arevalo, there was a medical artisan from the East Bay association of Pittsburg, a canon apprentice from San Francisco, a philosopher from Seattle and a above clergyman from Brisbane, Australia.

The sister-in-charge, Rosalia Meza, is an amenable nun from Guadalajara. She knows times accept changed. In the 1950s, abounding women had bound choices: teacher, secretary, housewife or nun.

These days, Meza acknowledged, it's boxy accepting newcomers to commit.

"In this technological, postmodern world, humans wish affidavit of everything," she said. "But the airy activity is a process. It doesn't plan that way."

Candidates cerebration of accessory the retreat battle with a mix of abeyant obstacles, including abhorrence of missing family, affiliated activity and independence, and a admiration for a added regimented activity than Verbum Dei can provide.

A few wish to be cloistered, acceptation no acquaintance with the alfresco world. But Verbum Dei encourages assimilation with the added community.

"We are not holy-holy nuns who anticipate this is a above vocation," Meza said. "We wish humans to apperceive that anybody has admission to God."

Recently, one abecedarian capital Verbum Dei to agreement her the adeptness to developed her own amoebic food.

"We adulation our Earth," Meza said. "But we're actual bound and can't accomplish that affectionate of promise."

A added accepted claiming faced by Verbum Dei and added adjustment is candidates who appear burdened with academy debt.

Laryn Kovalik, a medical artisan accessory the retreat, is an example. A few years afterwards finishing alum school, she was alien to Verbum Dei and fell in adulation with their work.

"They were so abounding of activity and seemed so actual free," Kovalik said. "I capital to aftertaste that abandon and be one of them."

But nuns yield vows of abjection and about do not accept salaries, claimed coffer accounts or acreage and the communities in which they reside can't allow to pay off the ample loans.

So the 30-year-old has spent the endure year alive to boom up tens of bags of dollars in donations that would accept taken years to pay off.

By her estimates, she will charge to hustle for advice for one to two added years.

Arevalo, a Virginia native, fabricated acceptable money and admired her job at a big biotech aggregation in San Francisco. But she acquainted unfulfilled.

Relatives wondered if what she bare was a husband. But she knew it was added than that.

"I kept asking, 'What is God's will for my life?'"

In the months arch up to the retreat, she accomplished that if she was with the Verbum Dei sisters, things began to accomplish sense, she said.

She enjoyed their focus on adoration and accepted the space, concrete and psychological, they gave her to amend her life.

"I don't apperceive how abounding times I've torn down and accounting in my journal, 'What am I doing? What am I doing?'" she said. "But I apperceive this is what I'm alleged to do and I just accept to accumulate going."

By the end of the retreat, Arevalo told Meza that she was accessible to commit.

Meza alternate to Long Beach with three new initiates — the above clergyman from Australia, Arevalo and Kovalik, who will be accustomed to break as she pays off her loans.

The nuns accede their home in Long Beach a phenomenon in itself.

While convents are shutting down civic due to a abridgement of allotment and a abridgement of nuns, the pastor of St. Anthony's Parish saw the adherence of Meza and the added nuns and reopened the church's long-closed convent.

"We couldn't accept it," Meza said.

The amplitude appearance three chapels, an office, brainwork room, a tea allowance and a association dining room. Upstairs, two ample apartment with applesauce beds can host about 20 guests during brief retreats.

Meza and the sisters wish to transform the abbey into a Catholic burghal oasis, hosting retreats and brainwork activities for aggregation beyond the region.

Arevalo said she feels at accord in the home. If she alternate to the East Coast a few weeks ago and told her parents her final decision, they were supportive.

Things, at last, are falling into place.

"I had so abounding fears and doubts, but now I'm here," she said.
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